How you’ve developed personally from your relationship (what your partner has taught you etc) and also sex if you don’t mind (any aspect of sex is fine)
My relationship has taught me a number of things. First off, I was very ignorant to the spectrum of gender and sexuality. I would never think that someone could have preferences beyond LG and B. I also just thought that people were boy or girl, nothing more. I knew you could change your gender, but I never thought that androgyny, intersex or gender non-conforming. Also, I have grown to respect people more often and not be so uncomfortable with people that are not like me. I’ve also grown to learn the aspects of a relationship, learning to trust, be honest, and love unconditionally. I have learned that being in a relationship isn’t going to always be perfect, but it’s about learning and growing and communication is so important. I’ve also figured out that change can be good, as long as it is not extreme.
I’m not sure if you mean sex in general or sex with a trans guy. I’m gonna assume a trans guy. Well, honestly, in my case, it’s not much different than being with anyone else. Occasionally there are times that he will become very dysphoric during sex and we will have to stop. Other than that sex is very intimate and normal. Once he starts testosterone I am sure that things will probably change slightly sexually due to bodily changes. I’ll talk more about this once he does start T and such.
I am interning with TransOhio where I am writing a resource manual that will have place and such that are trans* friendly and that are good, helpful resources. I am also interning at Stonewall where I am hopefully doing a fundraiser for Transohio…YAYY. I am done with High school which is scary and Luc and I are having some troubles and it’s hard. I am having kind of an identity crisis, so you all should send me your love (:
Out to everyone except work and his mom still. I mean his mom knows, just doesnt talk about it. He is trying to further his artistic capapilities. Other than that not much has changed with his transition.
My name is Katrin, I’m from Germany and I’ve been in a relationship with a transguy for 9 months now. I’ve been trying to find a place online where I can exchange my feelings and experiences with other people who are in the same situation as me.
Right now, my boyfriend has just had his outing with his parents and at school and I’m so excited that everything’s starting now! Of course I got my friends and family who are equally happy about all this, but it would be nice to talk to someone who’s experiencing the same. Maybe some of you know this feeling of happiness, knowing that your partner made one of the most important decisions in his life, going the way he needs to go.
I know that there might be difficult times ahead, when he starts taking testosterone etc. I know that we can get through every difficulty together, since we talk about everything and always support each other, but it would be nice to have support just in case I need someone to talk to or ask questions etc.
Well, just wanted to share my story. Thanks for reading! :-)
My boyfriend is really, really early in his transition. He's not even 100% sure he wants to transition. I really like calling him my boyfriend, though, and I want to be involved and supportive of his transition. I want to be a good girlfriend. Any advice for a couple just starting to look at the uncertainty ahead?
You want to make sure that everything is completely his choice, but let him know that he doesn’t have to transition. If he feels he is a man that doesn’t mean that he has to transition. There are plenty of ftm transmen that do not transition. There are a lot of confusing feelings going on with both of you. This can be so new for both of you and what is really important is communicating with one another. Making feelings very clear and make sure to ask him what he wants you to call him and what he wants. Assure him that you love him often and make sure you are always there for him. (:
hi :) stumbled upon your blog today. I'm also a SOFFA and I wanted to let you know about a resource in Louisiana called Louisiana Trans* Advocates. Tumblr won't let me post links in an ask but if you google it you can find the website and Facebook page.
If you can submit the link here I will definitely post it! thank you!