Hi, me and my ftm boyfriend have been together quite a few months. we are young and in love. but the thing is, i cant talk to anyone about us, the arguments we have or what ever because no one else understands and they will judge. i know this because they are starting to already even though they dont know the truth. I dont have long left of school but its still hard. my boyfriend hasnt even started transitioning. i just want to know what to expect when he does and what i can to do help. thanks:)
I’ve found that when you date you a ftm person you have to kind of get rid of all expectations of other people. People suck and they will judge you. You have to stay strong and just ignore people’s words. If you need someone to talk to on the regular I’ll give you my personal tumblr, which I am on a lot more or my facebook. Sometimes you think that people are going to judge you and they really won’t. And sometimes the ones that judge you the most are those that you would never expect. Keep your head up darling.
....female. It says they find it offensive. We both know he’s trans. We both know he’s biologically female. It’s not like a big secret or something. He has referred to himself as being “biologically female”, and doesn’t seem to have a problem with it when I do. I’m sure he would tell me if he did. We’re really close. But, do you agree with this? I don’t. Thanks for your time. :)
I’m not quite sure what you are asking, but when it come to things like calling someone “biologically female” it can be offensive to some and not to others. Some people believe that since in their head they are male, that they are male and choose not to take T or get surgery, therefore they consider themselves biologically male, just not the stereotypical male. At the same others don’t take on a male or female label. So, you have to be careful when you’re talking to certain trans* guys. I would HIGHLY recommend that you do not use that phrase toward anyone other than the person you are talking about because it can really piss someone off.