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This may seem like an odd question, but do have anything to say to partners of ftms who are nervous and going through their own transition of their partner changing, and soon, physically? I'm an ftm and know this isn't entirely easy for my partner, whom I began dating before I discovered my trans* identity. Bearing that in mind, having to make that mental adjustment, what could you tell them? Ze's afraid of my orientation changing on T, and I worry if ze will still be attracted to me.
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I have personal experience with this, but it does get better. I talked with Luc a lot about how afraid I was about his orientation and the things that could change, but remember, you have always been a man and your orientation has nothing to do with gender. Your orientation will always be the same. If you have a sexual and emotional attraction to your partner now, you will be attracted after. For you, coming from a partner, if they really love you now, they will love you after. These insecurities are normal (at least from my experiences) and sometimes it will seem like you can’t live up to the ideals set by cis-gender men, but over time the ideas of transitioning and the act of it become very normal in your partners mind. (At least for me it did) Most of all it’s important to  not worry to much, because it can put a toll on your relationship. The future can never be predicted and hold on to the love and care that you and your partner are sharing now. As things change you must face them, but you can never really prepare, because you never know what will happen. I wish you the best of luck 

Anne<3

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