My boyfriend and I have been together for over 4 months and before we got together, he identified as genderqueer. In January, he came out to me as trans. I knew that he needed me and that I wanted to be as supportive as I could so I’ve been educating myself. Everything will tell you the physical changes, not the mental or emotional ones. He’s not out at home, so he is forced to live as someone he’s not. It takes both a mental and emotional toll on him and me. He has become a bit more emotional about some things and he puts himself down more than he did when he identified as genderqueer. Transitioning doesn’t just effect the body, it’s the mind that helps them pass. You can’t just look like a boy. Some ftms that I’ve researched feel like they have to over compensate and it’s rough. He hasn’t become distant… yet. I’m truly scared he will be because I know he will try to keep most of what he feels from me. In my opinion, it’s the emotional changes that are the worse. The emotional pain overshadows the physical pain. The fear that they won’t pass, the fear that their family won’t accept them, the fear that they will have to deal with everything alone.

Just thought I would share my input:)

-itsaqueerlifeafterall